September 26, 2005


Jen, formerly Jen Speaks, has the latest installment in her wedding plans. I follow her plans with some bemusement because they bear no resemblance to my involvement in planning my own wedding. My five brothers each cautioned me not to hung up in the planning phase because my input, although solicited by my bride's family, was not likely to be taken seriously. I had only two requests: that the organist play the Navy Hymn while seating the mothers and that my father, the late Captain LMC, USN, be remembered in the prayers of the faithful. These were granted and I was a happy camper. Otherwise, the entire show was my in-laws' production from start to finish and they did a bang-up job.

Posted by LMC at September 26, 2005 09:46 PM | TrackBack

Hey, thanks for the traffic. My fiance is equally bemused, although he's been a real trooper when I have asked him to do something. Without hesitation he has done the things I have asked him to do. And when I do ask for his input on something that I think he'd be interested it, he has given good feedback.

As a Navy brat, I have a deep fondness for the Navy Hymn. However, it always makes me cry - always. And so while I love it, it shall not be a part of my wedding. But that was a lovely way to remember your father on the occasion.

Oh, and make no mistake, this wedding is pretty much all me. As it should be - it's all about the bride. :grin:

Posted by: jen at September 27, 2005 09:31 AM

Jen, the Navy Hymn (played on anything)is one of two tear-jerkers for me every time, no matter the occasion. The other is "Taps" on a bugle.

Posted by: LMC at September 27, 2005 10:09 AM

My experience was atypical for a groom, but that was of necessity. The Feared Redhead's parents were in Turkey where her father was teaching English for three years. That meant they weren't around to help her plan. Furthermore, because their annual vacation back to the states was going to be rather short, we had to plan the wedding for that timetable, and hold it in Minnesota despite our California residence at the time.

So most of the planning and arrangements fell to her, me, and my mother. Add in a tight budget (this was not as expensive a wedding as is normal these days), and it took every resource and bit of creativity on all our parts to pull it off. To be sure, the ceremony itself focused on the vride, but I had a lot of input -- choices of music (The groom's processional was Rondeaux, my choice), I designed the front of and wrote out the wording of the invitations, influenced the Celtic theme of the decorations, etc. Oh, there was one thing about which I had no say, but it was all about me -- the Bride and her family, knowing me well, surprised me with a bagpiper to lead the recessional.

As for tear jerking songs, for me there are three. Taps, as LMC mentioned, the Star Spangled Banner, and "Amazing Grace" on the pipes.

Posted by: Brian B at September 27, 2005 10:41 AM

(insert Beavis & Butthead voice)

eh-heh heh eh heh....he said "Bang"

Shut up, Beavis!

Posted by: Steve The llamabutcher at September 27, 2005 11:25 AM